Houghton, Kristen (Oct 26, 2015). The sadness of conforming http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kristen-houghton/being-different-the-sadne_b_766626.html
In this article the author explains the price we have to pay when we try to conform to social norms. Society is always scrutinizing people for being different so for some individuals conforming is the only option. The author explains that there is a danger when fully conforming which is that we do not celebrate who we are because we want to be like a certain group of people. An example in the article is a woman that receives multiple plastic surgery operations because she really wanted to conform to the beauty that surrounds her which also calls her own beauty repulsive.
I chose this article because I believe that it is very similar to one of our required readings which is Social Influence: Social norms, Conformity, and compliance written by Robert B. Cialdini and Melanie R. Trost’s. In this article both of the authors explain that through the influence process we can change in a way that will move people from negative habits or they can be used clumsy reducing change for genuine movement and also explains that norms do not exist if they are not shared with others. In the article I chose of “The sadness of conformity” the article gives plenty of examples of people trying to conform, but are usually doing it for a negative reason and end up with negative results. Sometimes people conform and try to be like everyone else because they are forced to by society because our current society is not tolerant of the person who chooses a lifestyle that is not considered the norm. For example the article talks about a young man that was gay and was humiliated daily because of that so his choice to escape this was to commit suicide this is an example of the dangers one faces for being different in society. The article also tries to give a great life lesson which is it is ok to be different because being different means that you are happy with the person that you are. The ultimate danger of ultimate conformity is that we don’t celebrate who we are because we want to be like everyone else.
When I first read this article I was truly shocked to read how there are some people that will go through desperate measures to conform to what society wants them to be. After reading the article I asked myself, Why is it so important to them to live up to some one else’s standards? I was very shocked at how many people are unhappy with who they are and also how they are humiliated for being different. Humiliating people for being different can push them over the limit where they will harm themselves so it’s something we must learn as a society that it is ok to be different.