Lucy Russell, (March 11, 2015) Essena O’Neill Took a Stand but Girls Should Fight Back, Not Retreat From Social Media,. Retrieved on November 3, 2015, from http://www.newsweek.com/essena-oneill-took-stand-girls-should-fight-back-not-retreat-social-media-390277

This article talks about one young women’s struggle with shooting to fame on a social media site and then then the fight and struggle to conform that teenagers and young women are faced with in today’s modern world. The fight to stay up-to-date with your social media sites, have the latest look, the latest fashion, and let the world see you. With Social Media as big as it is, young women are subjected to daily, what the world believes they should look like, and the image that celebrities portray on these sites only adds to the youth of today wanting to look, act, and be just like them. For some this is no win situation as to have your voice on social media, you have to deal with all the ridicule that goes with it. Social Media unfortunately can be used as a weapon, to many times there have been cases of young children being subjected to threats over these sites, some have got so bad it has caused some to take their own lives. This is just too much, no child should ever be put in that situation and no one should ever do that to another human being. Unfortunately Social media is a part of almost everyone’s everyday life, it is used by media to bring us the most up-to-date stories.
I chose this article because I am a father of four beautiful young ladies, my oldest is 17, so very much involved in today’s social media. She has her Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and I’m sure a few others her Old Dad doesn’t know about. She doesn’t live with me, so I have little say (Control for lack of a better word) over what she does or how she dresses. Usually the first I know of how she is dressed for any occasion is when I log in to my Facebook account and see her pictures all over the page, by then it’s too late. I also have twin 10 year olds and a 7 year old. At the moment they are still at the age of not really worrying about the latest fashion craze. Although they have been made fun of because their Grandma lives in England, and they have different fashions over there, and grandma will send clothes for Christmas and Birthdays. So these issues that are talked about in the article are very close to home for me. Today society is getting rougher and rougher for our young children to grow up in, because society has taken away our ability to discipline our children, saying a spanking for doing something wrong is child abuse is absurd, or parents are so busy (or to lazy) doing what they want, to even care what their children are doing. They don’t have the time to deal with their child who is picking on or bullying another child at school because they are different, whether it be because of the way they dress, talk, look, or where they are from. Some people seem to be afraid of different and just can’t accept it and will do what they can to make that person change who they are and “conform” to what they believe is the Norm.
When I was reading this article, I couldn’t help myself but think of her situation as if it was my own child going through the same situation, as I’m sure any parent would. We are not robots, or clones, none of us are the same. Even identical twins are different in some ways. Because of this there should be no reason for people in everyday life to conform to what others say you should be like. It leaves me with questions like, what can I do to protect my Children? Why should they feel pressured to dress, look, and act like others? What can we do as a society to protect our future generations from this kind of struggle?

3 thoughts on “I’LL DRESS HOW EVER I WANT TO

  1. nancywaldridge says:

    I’m going to commit solely on the social media points you’ve made. Frankly, I’m so fed up with the expectations of social media in today’s society. I’m only 24 but I can remember when I was growing up, we had one computer when I was a teen and myspace was the thing to have but even on that site, I didn’t see the pressure and public ridicule that so many people face with these sites. Women are young girls are obsessed with their image online. They will take 10 photos just to get the perfect one to post on the internet. Why do women and girls put themselves through so much pressure?? I’m a mother of two girls, they are still babies and thankfully don’t know this society’s expectations yet which I’m glad for but also terrified to see what can and will change in 10-15 years from now when they are young adults and grown woman. I encourage my toddler, and will my baby as well when she can understand me, to value her beauty and self esteem and I won’t ever change that. I have social media but I don’t feel that I wrap my life into it to the extreme and I will always encourage that to my children as well. Frankly, I miss a time when being social and human interaction was face to face rather than over a computer screen.


  2. anthonys90 says:

    I like your choice of article. I do think we are all constantly overwhelmed with what societies view we should all look like (even for men now like body building etc). I think for your girls you should try to remind them to just be themselves. I know in certain situations it’s ok to follow along with others if it is for good but not if it will turn out to be something bad like bullying. Kids are really into bullying because they think making fun of someone is funny. They don’t see how it can have negative effects on certain children that have lower self esteems.


  3. AJ says:

    The article you chose is really on point. I like the connection of how your article relates to the theme. Where I’m from, which is American Samoa, people are to wear something respectful every single time. The different cultures and tradition can play a big role in this article and I say this because some cultures are not even serious about clothing. From what I know is that most students or teenagers get their styles from social media. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, Skype, and so forth are all examples of social media. This is where I believe that most people are getting their style from. Another reason I know is because they want to become someone else. I also tell my girlfriend to where some proper whenever we go out of the house because we don’t even know what other people are saying about us. I always make sure she wears something nice and that will stand out, but not something that will make others say negative things about us. I totally agreed with this article and especially your opinion. You really did great on this one.


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